Are you a hopeless romantic? No? Not to worry! It is not necessarily a bad thing. As a realist or a pragmatist, you approach love and relationships very much the same way you approach other aspects of your life, with logic and reason. You like the idea of love at first sight and soul mates, but it is more the subject of fairy tales than reality, right? You enjoy dating and the thrill of a new relationship, but you hold no preconceived notions or expectations. You believe relationships require perseverance and work, with common interests and mutual respect at the core.
If you are not a hopeless romantic, but are dating or living with one, there are some practical steps you can take to connect with them more. You do not need to be a hopeless romantic to relate to one. What are the things that initially attracted you to them the most? If the fact that they are a hopeless romantic is one of those things, you may have a softer side you have not yet explored. Try to see the world as they do and talk with them about it. Your perception and theirs is worthy of the attention.
Exploring your differences and similarities can be fun and amusing. Keep in mind that part of the romance is doing something you would not usually do. It is something you do because you care and you know your partner would enjoy. The steps to being romantic do not need to involve huge changes. Sometimes the romance is in the details. If you do not usually hold their hand when walking next to your partner, try it the next time you are strolling through the mall, or when going to dinner. Are you a hopeless romantic? No, but you enjoy making your partner happy.
When your logical and reasonable side rules, you may be viewed as cold and uncaring. From your perspective, making informed decisions are the best way to live life. For a hopeless romantic, it is the ability to be swept away with inspiration and making one person happy that makes life worth living. The hopeless romantic does not need grand gestures. Taking walks at sunset or sending a text that says, “I love you” will make them happy. The hopeless romantic and the pragmatist may be the best match of all, each balancing the other. Are you a hopeless romantic? No? Your partner may thank you.